The Journal of Clinical Psychology at the University of Scranton published a study about New Year’s resolution statistics. The study found that 45 percent of Americans make resolutions. The study also says only eight percent of people are successful in achieving their goals. That means there is a 92% failure rate.

 

We might wonder why… Here is my take on what happens.

 

We muster all our willpower to lose the weight, exercise, be a better partner or parent, budget or become debt-free or any of the other top 10 resolutions many make in the new year. We say we want these things and yet we look at them as something we have to attain…something outside of ourselves. Something we need to get to. The gap between where we are and what we want can be enormous. It is said that we can’t get to our vision. We must come from it.

 

There is a distinct difference between using one of our amazing mental faculties, the will versus using willpower to force yourself to keep your New Year’s resolution. If we could force things by compulsion or willpower, every single person would be at their ideal weight, eat healthier, exercise regularly, quit smoking, or any of the other top 10 ten New Year’s resolutions that 92% abandon within 3 months. Here’s something more powerful and more likely to be sustainable after 3 months:

 

  • Create a vision for your life in one area you wish to change focusing on your feelings of gratitude for your desired results.

  • Come from your vision daily… be the man or woman who is living this way.

  • Use your will to hold your vision (picture) to the exclusion of negative forces. (The will is the centralizing principle whose function is to keep the imagination centered on your vision.)

  • Join a Mastermind or be in a structure of support for accountability
     

During this first month of 2019 you might want to really think about what coming from your vision means to you. What changes can you make to be the woman or man who is living from your vision?

Happy New Year!

 

Valerie

 

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